VIEWS ON COURTSHIP

COURTSHIP

Written by: mayowa
For: lawboyz.heck.in
‪‬ February 2015.
Marriage was designed by God to expand the human race on Earth. It's a union between a man and a woman to become husband and wife for life. This is mostly base on the love between both of them with an agreement of both families. There are some activities that come before marriage. These include expression of interest from either of them, proposal, courtship and so on.
Courtship is very important before marriage. According to Cambridge Advanced Learner's Dictionary, courtship is the time when people have a romantic relationship with the intention of getting married. In technical view, it's the time when a man and a woman have a close observations about each other before getting married. These observations include studying of behaviour, if a woman is domesticated, sexual urge, temperance and so on. It's a successful courtship that leads to marriage.
Courtship started when a woman accepted a proposal from a man. It's during courtship that both of them will know some hidden things about each other. This is the time when they will learn how to live in peace in their marriage. Although, some people do pretend during their courtship but close observations can reveal it. In fact, some people may do weird things just to know if the other partner will stay in the marriage if they happen in the future.
There is an assumption that any issue that breaks a courtship will surely breaks a marriage in the future. A woman who cannot cook won't be able to please her husband who loves to eat his wife's food in the marriage. There will be an extramarital affair in the marriage if one of them is a sex maniac but the other has a less interest in sex. Failure to understand each other behaviour will break the marriage in the future. These and many other reasons have broken many marriage.
My observations about some marriage proved that courtship is important to discover some problems that may occur in the marriage. Many marriage that were preceded by courtship last longer than those without courtship. We shouldn't allow pressure from our family or friends to rush us into marriage without courtship. Courtship should not be too long or short. There should be atleast a year courtship before marriage.
We should note that there are differences between a relationship and courtship. The major difference is that a relationship is when you're hoping to marry each other while courtship is when you're ready to marry each other. Actually, it's not all courtship that lead to marriage. Many people quit courtship when they observed that they won't be able to cope with each other in the marriage. A broken courtship is better than a broken marriage.
Thanks to Mr Tunde Korede (Sirtondy) who inspired me with his article on a failed marriage. This article is my observations about some broken marriage. I gathered the points from my orientation from elders. Thanks for reading.
Written In
Lagos, Nigeria.